My goal setting strategy has always been the same:
Set a lofty goal
Get really excited about said goal
Buy a ridiculously cute planner to plan out said goal and deep-clean house to prepare for all forms of goal-crushing
Day 1 - Crush goals
Day 2 - Start out the day crushing goals, gradually get less motivated to continue said crushing
Day 3 - Think about continuing to crush goals, but decide you’ll probably have more motivation tomorrow
Day 3 - Throw in the towel, decide what to do with my formally perfect planner that has now been ruined by previous goal-setting ideas, go to Culver’s, eat french fries with Ranch, marathon watch Vanderpump Rules
Start all over again
In the end, it turns out I’m a really great at coming up with powerful ideas, but less great about following through with them.
Well, I should be more specific.
I’m really great at coming up with powerful ideas, but less great about following through with them … in my personal life.
Work goals are completely different as I found out when I was the Director of Operations at an animal shelter for three years and my career became all about setting and accomplishing big goals that, often, took a series of months (or more!) to complete.
It was through that experience that I learned the power of taking a large, impossible (dare I say, Dopey) goal and breaking it down into smaller, reasonable pieces.
I would take pride in meeting with my team, wall-sized sticky notes and markers in hand, ready to set plans and hold each other accountable.
We accomplished great things and look back on our notes from the beginning and feel proud of the distance we came from “This is never going to happen” to “Hey! I actually did it!”
Some how, I have never been able to transfer this system to the goals I have for my personal life.
Maybe it’s the lack of team accountability?
Maybe it’s the fact that no one can fire you if you "fail"?
Maybe it’s the feeling of imposter syndrome that you are daring to push yourself outside of your comfort zone?
Whatever it is. I’m tired of wishing for the same lofty goals and the feeling of personal accomplishment, so something has got to change.
Enter my new personal goal-setting strategy:
Most girls have a closet full of clothes with the tags attached, waiting for the “perfect day” to be worn.
This girls has a closet full of notebooks and journals with crisp white pages, waiting for the “perfect day” to be filled with stories, adventures, and experiences.
((And I have a closet full of clothes with the tags still attached))
Pair an obnoxious paper collection with the two impossible goals of running RunDisney’s Dopey Challenge and seeking daily adventures along the way and I think I’ve figured out a way to make sure I don’t end up on an episode of TLC’s Hoarders: Buried Alive.
Each notebook will serve as a chapter in my journey to find strength and embrace adventure. I will break down each of my goals in a series of measurable steps I can take daily in order to achieve my goals.
Each page will be dedicated to a day’s worth of thoughts, expression, memories, accomplishments.
For the first chapter of this journey, I’ll be using a sweetly simple mini notebook that I bought at Target eons ago when I thought I would be more likely to use a notebook if it was small enough to fit inside of my Mary Poppins sized bag (turns out what actually happens is that said-notebook becomes filled with nothing but granola bar crumbs, wrinkles, and wilted pages.)
This first chapter will be just over eight weeks long (64 pages, 64 days) and will bring me through the beginning of the “fourth trimester” … aka having a newborn … aka a period of my life when people have told me I won’t have time to brush my teeth or take a shower, let alone get out of the house and, gasp, take time for myself.
Chapter 1 - Fourth Trimester Adventure List
April 1st, 2019 - June 3rd, 2019
Become a stroller pro
Free my hands and use a baby carrier
Say “No” to something I would normally say “Yes” to
Talk to Grandma
Make a midnight snack
Use a shower bomb
Make a homemade swaddle blanket
Track my child’s every movement
Make a time capsule
Find a Mommy-friendly place in town
Enjoy time at a local coffee shop and eat freshly baked treats
Take pictures of sleeping baby
Buy a comfortable nursing top
Go out with friends
Go to the movies
Drink a frosty beverage one-handed
Join a new mom’s group
Order carry out
Paint baby’s feet
Take a hot yoga class
Have some adult conversation
Celebrate the burp cloth
Take a baby yoga class
Introduce my stroller to the mall and buy some new jeans
Go grocery shopping
Get a pedicure
Bounce it out on a yoga ball
Bond with family
Curl up and dye
Go on a date
Photograph a nasty crying fit
Eat a warm blueberry muffins
Watch the sunrise and the sunset in one day
Go on a Saturday morning walk somewhere new
Go out for lunch
Spend a day with friends
Go to a local bakery
Get our garden ready for the Summer
Eat salt water taffy (or some other delightful candy)
Make something with fresh peaches
Have a family photoshoot
Reflect on change
Connect with someone who inspires me
Eat a treat from my childhood
Enjoy the night sky
Eat dessert for breakfast
Change the image on my desktop